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Friday, February 22, 2013
Boyfriend?!?!
Well, here we go again... I'm in the process of getting a new boyfriend. Why you might ask? I guess I like inflicting torture on my own personal emotional wellbeing! But seriously, there is a guy at my school who is really nice and I've been spending a lot of time with. He likes me, and to our friends it's just like 100% obvious that we're going to date. So... I think I'll end up dating him. And this brings up a whole new issue... dating guys while you're in the closet. Honestly, I'd be fine not dating any guys ever again, but it's so important for me to keep up the straight image, like... so important. If I never date, people start to get suspicious and at least try to understand what's going on. I'm gay people! So suck it up! I honestly wonder a lot about how my life will turn out. Sadly, I think I know what's going to happen. I'm going to find a guy at college, marry him, have a job and kids and a nice house and do lots of fun adventurous things with my family, make sure my kids are totally punk awesome, but no one will ever know who I really am. I'm scared I'll get married and just never have the courage to tell anyone. Then I'll basically be doing what my dad did...and I'm not my dad. This is nothing like him, and I don't want to do that. I just don't know how to avoid it happening... and here I am getting a boyfriend, it's starting...
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Thursday, February 7, 2013
Stereotypes
Alright, this is something that just has to be talked about... stereotypes plague lesbians every single day and it sucks. So here's a list of 5 things I don't like about lesbian stereotypes:
1) Short Hair
Really people? This one is so played out. Maybe 20 years ago this worked, but short hair is in for girls and honestly it doesn't tell squat about a person's sexual orientation. I know a lot of straight girls who have really short hair and there isn't an ounce of lesbian in them, and the other way around, lesbian girls with long hair, it's becoming more and more common every day.
2) Stereotypes box in closeted lesbians.
I experience this every day. Because of all the stereotypes, I feel conflicted about how I should look and act. I try to put on a bit of a lesbian air so if there are any other lesbians at my college they might catch on and be interested, but not so much that girls I know catch on. It's a fine line. But still, the fact that I feel the need at all says that something is wrong when we're stereotyping people into boxes.
3) You get it wrong...
Honestly, probably more than 50% of the time people try to use "gaydar" they're wrong... I mean just look at Lara in The L Word! Shane has the best gaydar in town and gets her wrong. I think people who think they have gaydar are just on the lookout for stereotypes, nothing more.
4) Rebels.
Now this one is rough for me, because I am a rebel and a lesbian so I actually fit this stereotype. But the only reason it worked out like that is because I come from a Christian home so me knowing I'm gay puts a little space between me and my family which over time has just made people see me as a rebel even if they don't know why. But the truth is, thankfully, the world is gradually becoming more and more open to homosexuality. As this is happening, parents are starting to be so much more accepting of their children and their childrens' sexuality. This means that even the good girl who does absolutely everything her mom ever tells her could be an open lesbian. The world is changing folks.
5) We hate boys.
I can't stand this one. The truth is I love boys I just don't want to have sex with them! I love being friends with boys, I even have fun flirting with them, but what makes me a lesbian is that at the end of the day I have no real desire to settle down or have an emotional attraction with a guy, like I do with a girl. But we don't all hate guys! Some of my absolute best friends are boys and they are fantastic.
So all that to say, stop it with the stereotypes! Enough is enough, people, the world is growing up, you should grow up with it. I mean seriously...if stereotypes were true, how in the WORLD would P!nk be straight?!?!?!
That's all for today. Love you guys so much!!
Peace out.
1) Short Hair
Really people? This one is so played out. Maybe 20 years ago this worked, but short hair is in for girls and honestly it doesn't tell squat about a person's sexual orientation. I know a lot of straight girls who have really short hair and there isn't an ounce of lesbian in them, and the other way around, lesbian girls with long hair, it's becoming more and more common every day.
2) Stereotypes box in closeted lesbians.
I experience this every day. Because of all the stereotypes, I feel conflicted about how I should look and act. I try to put on a bit of a lesbian air so if there are any other lesbians at my college they might catch on and be interested, but not so much that girls I know catch on. It's a fine line. But still, the fact that I feel the need at all says that something is wrong when we're stereotyping people into boxes.
3) You get it wrong...
Honestly, probably more than 50% of the time people try to use "gaydar" they're wrong... I mean just look at Lara in The L Word! Shane has the best gaydar in town and gets her wrong. I think people who think they have gaydar are just on the lookout for stereotypes, nothing more.
4) Rebels.
Now this one is rough for me, because I am a rebel and a lesbian so I actually fit this stereotype. But the only reason it worked out like that is because I come from a Christian home so me knowing I'm gay puts a little space between me and my family which over time has just made people see me as a rebel even if they don't know why. But the truth is, thankfully, the world is gradually becoming more and more open to homosexuality. As this is happening, parents are starting to be so much more accepting of their children and their childrens' sexuality. This means that even the good girl who does absolutely everything her mom ever tells her could be an open lesbian. The world is changing folks.
5) We hate boys.
I can't stand this one. The truth is I love boys I just don't want to have sex with them! I love being friends with boys, I even have fun flirting with them, but what makes me a lesbian is that at the end of the day I have no real desire to settle down or have an emotional attraction with a guy, like I do with a girl. But we don't all hate guys! Some of my absolute best friends are boys and they are fantastic.
So all that to say, stop it with the stereotypes! Enough is enough, people, the world is growing up, you should grow up with it. I mean seriously...if stereotypes were true, how in the WORLD would P!nk be straight?!?!?!
That's all for today. Love you guys so much!!
Peace out.
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